The Rock Climber, who is in essence, my FWB (friends with benefits) messages me tonight (Friday night), and I’m thinking he wants to go for a booty call again and I’m not really feeling it tonight. My sex drive is low all of a sudden, maybe just where I am in my cycle. He surprises me, and asked if I want to join him on a two-week trip to Thailand! He’s leaving on Sunday, which is in two days.
Okay, so yes, this is crazy and I politely declined, but it isn’t all that out there. We were both world travelling consultants before, and now he’s in sales. We live or at least I lived that lifestyle where I could just up and go. At any given time, we have thousands of travel points racked up and travel status for some extra perks. A weekend getaway to another city is totally not far fetched, but Asia for two-weeks on a two day notice is most certainly pushing it.
And okay, yes asking your FWB to go on vacation is also shocking, especially since he has a significant other. I’m not going to lie, I considered it. I need a vacation, but the next two weeks for me are scheduled out already. So when I declined, he also mentioned to me that he is going to Las Vegas with his boys, gave me a specific date that he’ll be there and told me to “swing by” if I happen to be around either Phuket or Vegas. Great.
And maybe the crazier thing out of all of this is that I actually considered it. I actually gave it some real thought. I think I like the idea of being able to just be spontaneous and just get up and go. What does that say about me?
So let’s recap the facts. He is my FWB, but actually, it sounds like he has a significant other in a nearby city (7 hour drive, 2 hour flight away). While my work allows me to work remotely most of the time, I actually have a packed schedule the next two weeks including a few days of mandatory face time. This aside, I’ve also been dating Mr. International for approximately 3 months now. Even if I go away on a long weekend getaway, what am I going to tell him about who I’m going with!?
And okay, going away to these party cities, Rock Climber sounds like he’s just trying to get really wasted, meet people and very likely, hook up with them! I mean, if having an affair for him is not a big deal, then what’s another to add to the books? And really, let’s be honest, I’m not as much of a partyer. I come out with him, I enjoy having a few drinks and I enjoy getting wasted, but I hate meeting people at the clubs, dancing in a crowded, dark environment and having superficial connections with people – skip all that shit for me, I was into it for the hookup with him.
Anyway, in short – no, I’m not going on vacation with him because that is crazy, but it is concerning that I even gave it this much thought. It kind of scares me and makes me feel like I’m addicted to this crazy adrenaline-filled lifestyle.