My cousin and I were discussing the other day about inadvertently finding out through social media about who our ex’s are dating, and that stinging feeling when realising that they like their current beau more. For her, it was a guy that she was seeing for years on and off that never acknowledged her as a girlfriend. He said he didn’t want a relationship, but here he was openly acknowledging his new girlfriend on Facebook. For me, it was the bearded traveller whom I dated for just less than a year posting photos of himself with his new girl and destinations that he wanted to experience with her.
So why does this happen? I really think that the man has to be convinced that it’s the right timing for him and that he’s ready. Well, what does that mean for a woman who is looking for a long term relationship? Well, if he isn’t sure about declaring you his girlfriend, taking you seriously or telling you that he has doubts, then he’s likely not going to change his mind. The tip for women who are looking for more is to run away from these situations as quickly as possible!
I have a platonic male friend who has been casually dating his “sort of” girlfriend for almost a year. He doesn’t see it working out long term but he has cowardly excluded this from his conversations with her. In arguments, he has told her that he can’t trust her and that he sees her as being more of a mistress. He is content with her because he doesnt have to put too much effort into it and is not willing to pull the cord on the relationship. You would think that she would just end it, but she doesn’t. She’s grasping on to whatever she can get out of him and just two years ago, I would have done the same. Now, I would like to think that I could be strong enough to run away as fast as possible.
Does that make my friend a horrible guy? Yes, that’s what I’m trying to convince him. That he’s preying on her naivety for his convenience. His argument is that he also doesn’t know what he wants and whether he could find someone that would be a better match for him. He’s having a good time with her and he cares for her, but she’s just not the one. Ladies, if you’re ever in that type of situation, run away as fast as you can. You can do better.